
Troy Don, son of Betty (Rhoades) and Paul Wheat was born on March 19, 1966 in Alva, Oklahoma. He passed away on the 6th of December, at his home in Tulsa, at the age of 42 years, 8 months and 18 days.
He attended the Alva Public School System and graduated from high school with the class of 1984. After moving to Tulsa, Troy attended and graduated cosmetology school in Jenks. He became a successful stylist in Tulsa. He was very involved in the Miss Cinderella, Miss Oklahoma and Miss America Pageants. One of the highlights of his life was when his client won Miss America in 2006. Mr. Wheat was a member of the United Methodist Church.
He was preceded in death by his brother, Gary on October 27, 2005; his grandparents: Ralph and Marie Rhoades and Logan and Libby Wheat. Troy is survived by his parents Paul and Betty; a sister and her husband, Paula and Bill Miller of Woodward; his significant other, Christopher Roberts of Tulsa; two nieces and their spouses, Shannon and Craig Chestnut and their children Jace and Jayden of Mustang, Karrie and Kendel Kay and their children Sloan, Reece, Braton and Kinley of Ashland, Kansas; a number of other relatives and many friends.
A Memorial Service will be held from 7:00 - 9:00 pm Thursday at Ninde Brookside Chapel.
I was blessed to have worked next to Troy years ago. He was one of the best human beings I have ever met. I don’t think that I ever saw him without a smile on his face, and he had me laughing ALL of the time. The more I got to know Troy, the more I loved him. He was a beautiful soul here on earth & I know he’s a more beautiful soul in heaven. I can’t wait to see him again someday ❤️
Lisa
Oh Troy. I can truely say that Troy was my truest of best friends. Even though for the past two years i have been traveling, he was the one i confided in and told everything too. I was always excited for every Friday when i could tell him all the gossip and find out all that is going on here in T-Town. We would both laugh and cry so much. Both from joy and sorrow. Troy would do anything for anyone. He even hired me as a seasonal assistant at the salon even though I knew he didnt even need one. It beat just sitting at his salon and entertaining his clients for free!!!! Grey Goose and Pineapple!!!!! I would have never guessed the guy i met 4 years ago would still be so important to me even in death. I will never find anyone else as genuine, forgiving, kind, compassionate, and definately as tolerant as Troy. Well Troy, I raise a margarita and a Greygoose to you. I will miss you more than words will EVER say. "I saw it in the window and couldn't resist" (After I accidentally tore down Troys lavish window treatments, he put the curtains on his shoulders and said this famous quote. Surpised the heck out of me.)
Aaron Colby
Troy was always a smiling face and a warm hug whenever I went in to his shop. I got my first big girl hair cut from Troy and he has no idea the impact he has made on my life. I always looked forward to my hair needing a hair cut just so I could visit during the extremely long visit. He means more to this system(Miss Oklahoma) then he will ever know and so many girls have a bond now due to the recent happenings. I will always be one of Troy's girls. It will be very difficult to find someone to attempt recreate what magic Troy did with those shears. Troy Wheat, I will miss you dearly.
Dani Delso
My condolences to the family, friends and loved ones of Troys. I was his neighbor and only spoke to him a few times, but he was very kind and helpful. My thought and prayers are with you all and I pray for his peace and his heavenly joy.
B. Smith
We will miss Troy and his great sense of humor. He always wore a smile whenever we saw him. Our hearts go out to Chris, family, and friends. We will think of him often and pray that he finds peace.
Linda & Joel Sander
Darling Troy, I shall miss your coming into my restaurant for dinner with your friends. Your warming smile and compliments were always gracious and kind, as were you. I have the wine I stocked especially for you. It will never be on my wine list now, but will remain in the wine cellar as "Troy's private stock." Rest in peace, sweet child, until we meet again. Love, Ms Attitude (as you loved to tease me)
Doris Matthews
Words cannot express how my heart broke when I found out about Troy. I will never forget the many wonderful times we spent together. He always made me smile. We laughed together often and talked for hours! There was nothing he wouldn't do for me. Among my many memories of Troy was the morning after I won Miss America when he arrived at my hotel door at 2:30 a.m. to make me look pretty (and awake)for my debut on Good Morning America. We spent one evening in the hotel coloring my hair over the bath tub when I returned home for my homecoming! We laughed so hard! He meant the world to me and through our relationship I learned the true meaning of a friend. Troy, you will be missed more than you will ever know. You will always be one of my favorite memories in my Miss Oklahoma and Miss America experience. Thank you for sharing such memorable moments with me. I love you so much and I was blessed to have the privilege to call you my friend. I wish terribly that I could be there, but please know my prayers are with family and friends as we deeply miss the man that touched so many lives.
Jennifer Berry Gooden
Troy was a special part of our family and will be greatly missed. I will miss his hugs and smiles and his quick wit. My heart goes out to my brother, Chris and to Troy's family during this difficult time of great sorrow. I pray for God's comfort and peace for all of us.
Nita Carr
In 1993, when I had hair, Troy was my stylist,.... and my counselor, my therapist, my confidant, and my first friend as I came OUT. He took my to Church at the Parish Church of St Jerome which provided me support and encouragement to live an honest and open life. On his 40th birthday I gave him a toaster to commemorate the valuable role he played at a confusing time in my life. Troy is my hero. May he rest in peace and be rewarded by our Loving God for those acts of kindness that have changed my life and others also.
Toby Jenkins
I will so miss the welcoming smile that I always received every time I say Troy. No matter how I felt at that moment, I always felt better after a smile and a hug from Troy. I will miss him and think of him every time I am at a Miss OK event.
Donna Knight
We accept my sincere condolances,you don't know me but Troy was very close with my sister,Karen (Delta)that;s what he called her. I know that she would want to send her love to you also.
Vicki Warren