
Sunday morning the McDuffie family lost a most beloved member of our Clan. Nancy Carol McDuffie was born on May 18, 1955 in Tulsa, OK to Robert Neill McDuffie and Carolyn (Braunlich) McDuffie. She passed into the mystic surrounded by family on October 17, 2021 at the age of 66.
Nancy grew up in Tulsa and graduated from the Memorial High School (Chargers!!). She attended Oklahoma State University taking the job of Redskin yearbook editor (Go Pokes!!), graduating with a Bachelor of Science degree, Class of ’77. She continued her Charger enthusiasm as a member of the scholarship selection committee.
Nancy grew up in a family with a passion for games, literature, music and the Arts. She conveyed these passions to kindred spirits from Purolator in Tulsa, to Chase Manhattan in New York City and back again to Imperial in Tulsa. Nancy collected these spirits who became friends and kept them close as family. Nancy’s passion for collecting was evident in her scrapbooking; another way of keeping and making memories with family and friends. These collections conveyed her love of travel – crisscrossing America to see her favorite performers who also became friends.
Her love of games gave Nancy a chance to not only play, but teach games to three nephews and one great nephew who continues the tradition. She loved referring to herself as “One of the Greats”, meaning Great Aunt to Max and Charlotte. Nancy was a cherished sister, aunt, great aunt and friend, as countless members of her circle will attest. “I’ve never met anyone like Nancy!” is the resounding reply to queries. Her zest and childlike wonder for life was infectious. We all loved being in her presence. She is Unforgettable!
Nancy was preceded in death by her parents and her brothers, Robert Neill McDuffie, Jr. and Phillip McDuffie. She is survived by her brother and sister-in-law: Douglas and Deborah McDuffie of Tulsa, OK; nephews: Duncan McDuffie, Dashiell McDuffie and Sean McDuffie and his wife, Shawna; great nephew, Max McDuffie and great niece, Charlotte McDuffie.
The family will receive friends 5-7 PM Thursday at the Ninde Brookside Funeral Home. Funeral service 10 AM Friday Ninde Brookside Chapel.
In lieu of flowers memorial donations may be made to Clarehouse, 7617 S. Mingo Road, Tulsa, OK 74133.
6) Probably most special of all to Nancy were her twin boys, Will and Anthony Nunziata. We would see them as often as we could as they performed concerts around the US. They would always do a shout-out to Nancy at every show and announce that their biggest fan was in the audience. I've attached a tribute that Anthony wrote on Facebook. These are just a few of the million fabulous memories we shared. I will miss Nancy terribly and still can't really believe she is gone. She brought joy to so many people over the years. Thank you both so much for being with her and taking care of her these last few weeks!! Best Regards, Beverly
Beverly Burch
5) One of our favorite Broadway boys, Will Chase, got a leading role on the TV series Nashville. We were able to go to Nashville several times, watch them film and see all the sets on the sound stages. Through Will, we met the two stars of the show, Connie Britton and Chip Esten.
Beverly Burch
3) Nancy and I got to know Bernadette Peters during Annie Get Your Gun in 1999 and also got to know the cast including Kevin Bailey who played Chief Sitting Bull. Over the years we saw Bernadette in numerous concerts and all her Broadway shows. After the shows and concerts, we would hang out and visit in her dressing room.
Beverly Burch
2) Nancy and I met Tommy Tune when he was touring in Bye Bye Birdie in 1991 and became dear friends. When he was developing Busker Alley, he let us come to the workshop and watch rehearsals. We went to every city during the pre-Broadway tour and got to know everyone in the cast. Every weekend we would see the changes they had made during the week in city after city. Tommy was always so excited to get our feedback on the changes and new numbers that were added along the way. The last time we saw Tommy in person was in St. Louis in May 2019. He knew it was Nancy's birthday so when we checked into the hotel, Tommy had left a birthday cake and a special lithograph he had painted for Nancy in our room, along with some Happy Birthday balloons.
Beverly Burch
Hi Doug and Deborah, As you know, everywhere Nancy went, people loved her. I have thousands of photos and even more memories of all the trips we went on, shows we saw and people we met and got to know over the years. I've attached a zip file of photos that I've numbered along with a few thoughts to go with them. 1. Nancy and I went to see Damn Yankees in NYC in the 90's and were sitting on the front row. We went to the stage door after the show to meet a friend in the cast that was joining us for dinner. A new cast member, Jason Workman, had just joined the show and was playing the young lead of Joe Hardy. As we were waiting he came out the stage door, raced over to Nancy and gave her a big kiss. He had seen her smiling and loving the show and it had inspired him during his first performance. We became fast friends and several years later he had the lead in the National Tour of Aida. We made a scrapbook for his birthday which he says is the best gift he has ever received. Several weeks ago was the 20th anniversary of us giving him the scrapbook and he sent us a message on Facebook that he still has it and it is his most cherished gift!!!
Beverly Burch
Nancy was such a joy to be around! I will always remember the fun times we had playing card games and board games. I will cherish our scrapbook retreat and crafting memories. I’m so grateful she shared her love of Broadway with me. She is a wonderful lady and I will miss her dearly!
Natalie Michaelsen
Oh, the adventures I had with Nancy! When we discovered back in 1992 at Purolator in Tulsa that we were both OSU alums, both loved musical theatre, books, cats and art (and talking about all of it), we knew we were destined to be friends. Even when I moved to Kansas City a few years later, we got together when we could to see a show, tailgate before an OSU game, eat a great meal or just hang out. Who else would introduce you to people like Tommy Tune and Bernadette Peters? She was such a positive force of nature. She loved her family and friends so much. I will miss her.
Nancy was a dear friend as well as my cousin. Living so close, we played together as children and saw each other frequently. In our earlier adult years we were both busy and didn't see as much of each other, but for the last 20 years or so we have had the time to hang out and have fun together. Nancy was always up for whatever we could do ... holiday get-togethers, family reunions, game nights, concerts and shows, craft nights, scrapbook parties and days-long "scrapathons" ... even cross-country road trips to Colorado, Pennsylvania and Texas together. We shared lots of laughter and a few tears, and I will miss her sweet disposition, her contagious enthusiasm, her beautiful smile, and her sunny, positive outlook. - Juli Bulleigh
Juli Bulleigh