Marilyn "Merne" Louise Hayes
Obituary
Marilyn Louise Hayes was born October 28, 1969 in Tulsa, OK to Timothy Joseph Hayes and Jeanne (Grant) Dillingham and passed from this life on Monday, August 3, 2020 at the age of 50.
Merne (as she liked to be called) attended The Hockaday School in Dallas, later graduating from Edison High school. She had a strong love and passion for horses. She bred several champion German warm blood horses that competed in hunter jumper and dressage. Her love of animals was always apparent. She adored her dogs and animals. Merne was an excellent cook. Her ribs were competition worthy. She often enjoyed cooking for friends and family and especially loved cooking with her mother, Jeanne. The two of them also shared their love of OU. Boomer Sooner!
Merne owned a furniture store called “Sage Hayes” in the early 2000’s. She loved her partner in life, Matt and her son, Matthew more than anything. The day he was born was the happiest day of her life. She was so proud of all his accomplishments in school; especially his artwork.
Merne was preceded in death by her mother, Jeanne Grant Dillingham and step father, Tom Boyd Dillingham of Enid, Sherril & G.O. Nolley Jr. She is survived by her partner, Matt Nolley; their son, Matthew Nolley Jr.; her father, Tim Hayes Sr. and his wife, Gwen; brother, Tim Hayes Jr. (Meredith); sister, Brady Carlson (Kevin); nieces, Madeline Hayes and Makenzie Hayes; and nephew, Alex Carlson. As well as numerous friends who were beneficiaries of her culinary expertise and loyal friendship. They will hold her in their hearts and keep her memory alive for Matthew.
Due to Covid-19 concerns a Celebration of Life will be held at a future date.
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Tributes & Memories
Love you Merns!!!!! 50 years of friendship went way too fast. The memories I have are vast and wide, to you, Stacy and me on our 1st Easter egg hunt, Christmas’s’ at the club & summers, camp, your time seeing your grandmother in Houston and always making time for me AND most importantly our mother’s friendship that will bind us forever. I love you friend I hope you and your mom are cooking a meal like none other!❤️
Joey Hixson
Merne, you are gone way too soon & will be missed by many! The love you showed your family, friends & all your animals was special! I remember our birthday when Dad said this is the only time you will be twice her age & you will be half her age--we were 14 & 28! We talked about that on many of our later birthdays. I will be thinking of you on your 1st heavenly birthday in October & wishing we could still share funny & fond greetings! Prayers for Matthew, Matt & the rest of the family & hopes that the memories of good times with Merne comfort you!
Dana Dillingham Hutton