
Ann’s loyalty to a head-to-toe wardrobe of cobalt blue was only rivaled by her devotion to family. Family, to her, was an inclusive word intended for everyone she encountered. It was not uncommon to find Ann holding a stranger’s hand, baking a from-scratch pie for a repairman, cooking for her beloved shih tzus or pruning someone’s flowerbed while on a stroll. The exuberance of Ann’s greenhouse and kitchen matched the profound conviviality of her spirit.
A lifelong Tulsan, the life of Margaret Ann Nelson began on September 26, 1931. She was born to Robert Earl and Margaret Jordan Kirberger. Father Earl worked for Service Drilling Co. while mother Margaret became the founder of Tulsa’s iconic Margo’s Gift Shop, which opened in the Philcade Building in 1935, thanks in part to a loan from Waite Phillips and W.G. Skelly.
Ann was the fourth and last child, and the only daughter. She made lifelong friendships while attending Will Rogers High School and was crowned Homecoming Queen her senior year, graduating in 1949. Until the end of her life, Ann attended monthly luncheons with Rogers’ “49ers” and cherished attending her 65th class reunion last month.
Ann pledged Kappa Kappa Gamma while studying at University of Colorado Boulder before falling in love with Frederick “Fred” Sanford Nelson and marrying on August 4, 1951. By 1956, the pair had welcomed four children. A Tulsa District Judge, Fred served as a partner at the law firm, Hall, Estill, Hardwick, Gable, Golden & Nelson, P.C., a Tulsa institution to this day.
For decades, Ann worked alongside her mother at the family gift shop. Margo’s moved to Utica Square in 1964 at the request of Walt Helmerich. Today, Margo’s is Utica Square’s second longest running business. Ann assumed full ownership of the shop in 1982, before turning the keys over to her daughter Margo in 2009.
An ever-devoted wife, Ann remained bedside in the months following the 1970 attempted assassination of her husband by way of a car bombing in the family driveway. With his fortunate survival and eventual recovery, they were blessed with 17 more loving years together. Especially treasured were times spent sailing through the Caribbean aboard “Sandcastle” and on Grand Lake aboard “Amazing Grace”. Fred passed away unexpectedly in 1987.
A hope-filled fighter into her final days, she endured an almost four-year battle with melanoma before her passing. She lived those years cherishing time with her beloved great-grandchildren. Ann passed away on Tuesday while vacationing in Seaside, Florida. Her last moments were spent just feet from the sea and sands that she loved. She was surrounded by all four of her children, their spouses and offspring. The singing of lullabies, joined hands in prayer, and tearful remembering marked the family’s final moments with their “Mimi”. Gracing her hand until the end was the wedding ring she gave her soul mate on their wedding day. The inscription: “One Life One Love”.
Ann was predeceased by her parents and husband, as well as her sister-in-law Jody Kirberger, brothers-in-law Erik Nelson and Bill Brownfield, nephew Billy Kirberger, and niece Elizabeth Harrington. Her legacy lives on in the hearts of her brothers, Bob and Phyllis, Bill, and Don and Cleveanne Kirberger. Her siblings-in-law Kathryn Brownfield, Ivo and Dolores Nelson. Her children Margo Nelson, Rick and Janet Nelson, Judy and Doug Coman, and Jill and Bob Thomas. Her grandchildren Roy and Andra Nelson, Erik and Cassidy Nelson, Judd and Jenni Jennerjahn, and Allie and Olivia Thomas. Her great-grandchildren Walker, Jackson, Lukas, Logan, and Lily Nelson. And many loved nieces and nephews, great and grand.
Though Ann was not personally afflicted, she was impacted by Alzheimer’s disease; in lieu of flowers, please send donations benefiting research to the Alzheimer’s Association Oklahoma Chapter or the American Cancer Society.
Services will take place at 11:00 a.m. on Monday, June 30, 2014 at Boston Avenue United Methodist Church where Ann was a longtime member.
I've often thought of Judge and Mrs. Nelson through the past nearly 50 years. I was a newly wed and new to Tulsa when the Judge was injured, and my husband was one of the Tulsa policemen who guarded the judge.
I met Mrs. Nelson during that time, and she was a very sweet gracious lady. God bless your family.
Kathy Hess
This is Lynn Nabb, daughter of Toi (Meek) Nidiffer Sanders. Just wanted to tell you that my Mom was very fond of Ann and would have been so very sad to hear of her passing. Mom passed away on 5/24 from pneumonia. She was a 49er also and I had the privilege to get to know Ann at several of the 49er Christmas parties. So, on Toi's behalf, I'd like to express condolences for your loss. Ann was a wonderful lady.
Lynn Nabb, Toi Sanders' daughter
I remember with great fondness the Hall Estill Christmas parties at the home of Ann and Fred Nelson long ago. It was such an honor for me to know them both. My sincerest condolences to the family in the loss of Ann who was such a generous and caring person..
Dorie Astle
Our dearest Ann. We have known each other since we were five years old at Kendall Grade School Kindergarten and then going on to Wilson & Rogers. We have stayed in touch for 78 years. In 1948 Charlyne Lumly moved to Tulsa from Chicago and enrolled at Will Rogers. You were working in the office and became her mentor. Lucky for me you had her ask me to a Sadie Hawkins dance. You were a bridesmaid in our wedding on June 2, 1951. Your dear mother helped with invitations and planning. We called you on many of our anniversaries just to say thanks. This past June was our 63rd anniversary; we are going to miss these calls.The last time we saw you was October 2010 when we hosted a luncheon at the Mayo with many of our 49'ers reminiscing about our past. You have always been and will continue to be in our most wonderful memories. We love you.
Randy & Charlyne Davis, Scottsdale, AZ
The obituary & news column say it all. Margo, Judy, Jill & Rick- you guys had a really wonderful mom!
Loving, caring - stabilizing - in good times and bad. It's a privilege to have known her both as mother and friend.
Peace & love to all.
Jim Brawner
Ann.....is who made the world go around. She loved her family explicitly. Her smile was immeasurable. Her every move was with grace and beauty. Your wonderful memories will now be united with all your loved ones.
Thank you Ann for being so respectful and kind and for sharing with everyone what it is like to be Loved and to Love you.
Condolences and best wishes to the best family.
Debbie Chatenever
Tulsa has lost on the of the "Greats" She will be missed.
John Gaudet
I will never forgot the way this amazing woman always made me feel when I was in the store. I will never see a butterfly, bee, bird, frog, for flower on anything that I will not think of her. Her sweet gentle hand leading me to the table, words or encouragement, and never ending friendship will remain forever in my heart!
bob cassmeyer
Tulsa has lost a true treasure. Ann Nelson was a true lady, a very gentle and genteel person. Each time I ran into her over the last years she treated me with such decency and kindness I was extremely touched. I am a better person from having had the genuine privilege of knowing and loving Ann. I willmiss you always, Ann.
Pat Cremin