Alex Chalmers

One of my favorite memories with Chalm was whenever we went fishing at Hunter Park, it had been a while since we’d talked. I’m not much of a fisherman, but I was looking forward to talking and that’s what we did for a very peaceful afternoon. Every conversation with Chalm was meaningful to me. I remember as we were fishing we discussed things from our faith, political stances, and even jiu jitsu. That conversation about jiu jitsu helped motivate us to pursue it and do it as well. We ended up not catching any fish the whole time being there, but I was so grateful to have spent that afternoon talking to Chalm. It was fun doing any sort of activity with him, even hanging out and making s’mores on a random night. Alex was humble, trustworthy, and curious about life, so it was always a gift to spend time with him. I will greatly miss those conversations, experiences, and the joy that Chalm brought to me and many others. Love you Chalm.

In middle school when we were on the same basketball team, we were all shooting the ball terribly at practice so Coach used Alex’s shot as an example and literally every single shot that Alex was taking was swishing in the net. He was probably the best shooter and overall player on our team. He was a really great guy and I am honored to for a time be called his friend and teammate.

I’ll always remember Alex wearing his Tommy Shelby hat to parties!

These are just a few of the pictures of Alex that bring a smile to my face. Alex has been a part of our lives from what seems like the beginning. He was such a good friend to Hunter! From flag football in 1st or 2nd grade all the way through high school and college. Alex and Hunter became fast friends because of their shared love of sports. I think Alex might have been the only friend that Hunter wouldn't argue with about sports because Hunter knew that whatever Alex was saying was right! Alex was so smart, funny and kind. He would have the most serious face and say something that would be so funny - without even cracking a smile. One of the pictures that I constantly replay in my mind are Alex's foul ball catches in right field in baseball. While Alex might not have been known as the fastest kid on the team, he would be in right field and all of the sudden turn into Dash from the Incredibles and make an impossible sliding catch to get us out of an inning. Mike remembers Alex just coming upstairs from our basement or downstairs from our current house and just wondering around looking for snacks. He loved snacks! We will always cherish these memories of Alex and our thoughts and prayers are with you. We love Alex and we love you all too, Amanda and Sandy. May God grant you peace and comfort and may these memories hopefully bring a smile to you as well.

I'll never forget the time Alex threw an immaculate inning. An immaculate inning—striking out three batters on just nine pitches—is one of the rarest feats in baseball. Alex accomplished it with masterful precision, relying on his devastating 12/6 curveball. What made his curve so lethal was the contrast with his sneaky powerful fastball, keeping hitters guessing. The moment the inning ended, I hustled to the dugout, breaking an unspoken rule—catchers typically don’t tell pitchers how they’re performing mid-game out of superstition. But this was different; I had to tell him. When I did, he simply looked at me and said, “Wow, that’s awesome,” in the most humble way imaginable. That response defined him. Alex had just achieved something only 105 major leaguers had ever done. Most pitchers would have celebrated, boasted, or at least made sure everyone knew about it. But not Alex. He quietly returned to the dugout, and it was business as usual. His talent was undeniable, but his humility made him truly special. Alex was the kindest, smartest, and most loving person I have ever met—and will ever meet. A true lover of sports, a group of us often gathered to watch UFC together. A UFC fight card will never feel the same without him. I will forever cherish my time with him.

Alex touched the lives of so many. He was a cherished friend, offering comfort and joy, while making others feel seen and valued. Though we feel the tremendous weight of his loss, we also carry with us the lessons he imparted—the power of kindness, the importance of being there for others, and the beauty of true friendship. With Love, The Pazzo Family

Most of my best memories from my childhood were with Alex. Alex was my first new friend at Cascia, and when I met him it felt like we had been friends for our whole lives already. We bonded over our similar interests such as college football, basketball, and golf. Alex was a person who could make me laugh no matter what was going on in my mind. Also Alex was someone who no matter how long it had been since we had talked, we could get lunch together, and it would feel like we were right where we left off. Some great memories I have with Alex are the countless amount of sporting events we watched/went to, the infinite amount of inside jokes we shared, going to swim at his grandmas, tubing skiatook lake, messing with baker and Millie, when Alex almost wore his football jersey out backwards, and many many more. I could spend days thinking back on memories of my time with Alex, and they are all memories that bring a big smile on my face. I am greatful for every second I shared with Alex.

Some of my favorite memories with Alex were when we would go to OU/TU sporting events. Growing up Alex would take me to OU football games and provided me some of my favorite memories to this day. Going to those games were always the highlights of my year and he was kind enough to make that possible for me. I always had so much fun tailgating with him at those games throwing the football around. Alex also was one of the few friends I had that would go to TU events with me. Whenever I would think about going alone I would always text him and he’d go with me. It was always a blast when we would go to TU basketball or football games and experience the joy/pain that came from those. Alex was one of the few people I could talk about sports to all day long and I’ll forever cherish those memories I made with him.

I met Alex at Capstone Treatment Center. I remember seeing him get the tour and I as I was also very new what started as a shared experience quickly turned into a brotherhood. We found solace in each other’s company, bonding over our long, deep conversations—most often about sports, especially the St. Louis Cardinals and golf. He had an unmatched love for sports, and it was something that connected us instantly. Whether we were talking about a Cardinals game, debating players, or discussing our favorite golf courses, those conversations were filled with passion, knowledge, and an undeniable love for the game. Alex was one of the most intelligent people I have ever known. He wasn’t loud or overbearing, but when he spoke, you listened—because you knew it would be something worth hearing. He had this quiet wisdom, a presence that was both calming and profound. He could sit back and observe, but when he did speak, his words had weight. He didn’t talk just to fill silence—he spoke with purpose. But more than anything, Alex was always there. He was the kind of friend who didn’t just show up when it was easy; he was there when it mattered most. If I ever needed someone to talk to, to lean on, or just to sit with in the silence, Alex was that person. He reached out. He checked in. He made sure you knew you weren’t alone. He had a way of making you feel understood, of making the hard days a little less heavy just by being present. He believed in me even when I struggled to believe in myself. His support was unwavering, and his impact on my life is something I will carry forever. It’s hard to accept that the plans we talked about, the ones we envisioned so vividly, won’t happen the way we imagined. But what will never change is the mark he left on me. The laughter, the deep conversations about the sports he loved, the way he made me feel like I had a true friend who just understood—those things don’t fade. I will never forget the last Monday before I left Capstone, Alex and I completed the feat of giant’s ladder. We physically used one another to climb every rung on that ladder, which took every ounce of our strength. We had devised a plan of him using my body as a step ladder to get himself up and then him using his strength to pull me up. I remember that moment at the top of the ladder vividly - it was just he and I up there. For that brief moment we were disconnected from being at Capstone and the world around us. I believe we both realized in that moment any other pairing and neither of us would’ve made it to the top. Alex, I miss you more than words can ever say. Your kindness, your wisdom, and your quiet strength shaped my life in ways you may never have realized. You were a friend in the truest sense of the word, and I will always carry your memory with me. Rest easy, brother. You will never be forgotten.

I met Alex at capstone as he had always been there for a month when I got there, and I have to say that he was the most similar person to me on the entire planet. He was very witty, very gentle and very relatable. Besides the fact he was a cowboys fan I liked everything about him. He will be missed- John Gerstner

Chalmers Family - our hearts and prayers go out to you. We are forever grateful for knowing Alex and even more thankful for the friendship he gave to Bennett when we made the move to Tulsa. Alex was sweet, bright and so easy to have in our presence. Saying he will be missed is an understatement. Please know that we are thinking about you and will share our prayers from afar as you celebrate his life and prepare to lay him to rest. Our wish is for you to find peace in knowing he was loved. Take care, The Olujic Family

Alex was always such a great friend to me. Sophomore year of high school, we both discovered our shared love for the St. Louis Cardinals. I knew how much he loved baseball, so this little connection felt special. I’ll never forget me, Alex, and Kate driving around together, probably wasting gas, but we didn’t care. We were just freshly 16, excited about having our own cars. Alex and I both had our Cardinals hats on and we stopped at Braum’s for ice cream. One of the things I’ll always remember about Alex was how easy it was to talk to him. We’d have these deep, mature conversations about life and the future. Then we’d stop and start laughing, realizing how grown up we sounded, like we had it all figured out. Alex was so smart. He was thoughtful in a way that always made me feel heard and understood. I valued his advice so much because it always came from a place of honesty and care. That’s who Alex was—someone who made the simplest moments feel like something worth remembering. He had a way of making you feel like you belonged, like your thoughts and feelings truly mattered. I’ll always be grateful for his friendship.

I cannot bring words to describe how much I valued Alex as a person. He was the smartest, yet most humble person I have ever met. During our time at OU I looked forward to one thing and that was getting to watch my nighty movie with Alex, while we rambled on about anything that came to mind. No matter what, I knew I could go to Alex with anything without judgment and was always met with a joke to bring light to whatever it was I was going through. He had a special way of bringing laughter into my life, even when I thought I couldn’t manage another smile. Alex often talked about his dream to live off the land in Whitefish Montana, where he couldn’t be bothered by all the noise of the world.

I remember Alex always made me laugh. He would always say the most random jokes but they would make me laugh. Every class I had with him it was hard to pay attention because he would make faces at me a laugh. I will always remember those classes with him.

Alex was always such a good friend to everyone and such a funny person to talk to. He was so witty and could make anyone around him crack a smile! I’m so thankful to have known him for so long— he was truly an awesome guy. Praying for the Chalmers family and everyone who got to love Alex.

Alex had a great love for Gods creation

Alex was the sweetest cousin he loved everyone around him. I remember one time the whole family went water rafting and we all smiled and laughed.

We are keeping your family in our prayers. We pray for God' peace for you and Alex. Sr. Julia Marie Monte Cassino School